Valentine’s Day is nerve-wracking for any guy, but it’s especially stressful if you’re in a new relationship. Don’t ask the advice of your friends who are married—or single. You can’t be doling out sparkly jewelry or intimate lingerie before you even have a toothbrush at her place. But showing up with a crappy card will definitely get you in hot water, even if you’re just a few dates in.

Instead, listen to us. Here are eight thoughtful gifts that strategically say “I like you and want to keep dating”—no more, no less—while making her feel special on the most romantic day of the year.